Last cancer post of the year

My mom's scans and tests are next week. Friday I do believe. Results should be in by Tuesday when she goes in for chemo.

I will admit when I stop to think about it I feel sort of nauseous [so I'm not really stopping to think about it too much]. This should determine if the cancer is "gone," when she can stop chemo, etc.

The side-effects are getting worse. While the hair on top of her head has started growing back, her taste is shot to shit again. Since the chemo attacks fast-growing cells like hair, nail and tastebud cells, these things are usually effected the worst. That's why people lose their hair. And their appetites. And lose their finger nails.

She hasn't lost her nails yet, but it's not looking good...

So 2010, let's get this straight now. ENOUGH with the cancer already.

Prayers and crossed fingers would be appreciated.

The whirlwind

Christmas has always been one of my favorite times of the year. I'm not really sure what it is--the atmosphere, the snap of the cold air that I don't totally mind just yet, the food--but it's always been pretty cool. Even in college, I spent time filling stockings for friends, playing Christmas music and having an awesome few days before flying home (where I'd usually have an awesome 3 weeks of hanging out not really doing anything, eating home-cooked meals and seeing family).

This year seemed to be extra-packed with craziness. My niece came 5 weeks early in the beginning of the week. I think we're all still in shock. Christmas Eve was full of Santa riding past the house on the firetruck (normal), the mother and [beastly] daughter next door having a fistfight with the grandmother trying to break them up (yay trashy neighbors!), Rocket (ha, I didn't make up that nickname, but he's a cool guy) completely trashed, singing and hanging all over everyone outside when we went out to stop the fight, and two white horses riding down the street pulling a sleigh with carolers (not normal).

Our cousins from SC came up, and we were lucky enough to spend 2 days with them. Always great times and the best laughs.

Tomorrow, I think I'll get to see baby for the 1st time!!!

And there's that pesky OBNJ poster that I'm supposed to finish, not to mention the freelance gig that isn't getting done.

Plus New Year! I'm happy I got a few different invites this year. Not really sure which to accept, and just realized now that I only have about 36 hours to figure it out (Yay decisions!).

I'm thinking of sticking around for baby's first New Year, though aside from sleeping and pooping I don't think she'll be doing anything much.

I don't have to go back to the big house till the 4th and I'm already dreading it! It's going to fast, and dare I say it, I'm having too much fun...

ZZzzzzZZzzZZzzzz....

I love when Maggie snores.

Praying for...?

Last night before going to sleep, I actually prayed. As per my small crisis of faith, this is something I rarely do. But sometimes you just need to talk to someone, and options were few. [Besides, I ultimately believe in God--the all-loving one--and even though I might seem like a petulant child, there's a piece of me like still believes he listens.]

I prayed for my mom mostly, and I asked Him not to let her down.

I also prayed a bit for myself. For some guidance, for a sign. You know, all that kinda stuff that never really happens. Or that I over think and analyze away.

Well, I said my prayers, ending with the plea for a sign, for finding my way.

And what do I dream about?

Zombies.

That's right. Not "school" or "family" or "art" or even a frickin' library. Zombies.

So either:
1.) There will be some sort of zombie situation/outbreak/apocalypse and God is trying to warn me.

or

2.) He had a pretty nice laugh at my expense. [I'm actually okay with this, believe it or not.]


If there are zombies in the future, I apologize in advance for not warning you.

A list...

2010 needs to include either:
1. A trip to Hawaii (or a move..... think? maybe? perhaps?...)
2. A stamp in my passport.
3. 3-5 day stay in a beach area on the west coast of something that will afford me kick-ass sunsets.

Random happenings

A few weeks ago while we were closing up at work, I took the trek over to secure the computer room. That pretty much consists of shutting down computers. It's thrilling. But on this particular day, there happened to be a Word document open. Earlier in the evening, I had been trying to help a student print out college essay, so I thought perhaps it was a simple case of said student getting the print and bailing before closing out.

So I started to read it. And it was totally not a college essay. Instead, I blundered into a letter this guy wrote to a girl. Apparently they had been friends for years, and he's loved her for pretty much that whole time. It was a confession, a plea, a total opening up of himself. I felt awfully guilty but part of me couldn't stop reading it.

Of course, because this is just the way things go for me, the guy walked in when I was about halfway through. I'm not sure who was more embarrassed, though I do admit relief that he didn't decide to take anything out on me. He pretty much said what I had gathered: He fell in love, didn't think she knew and wanted to tell her, and this was the only way he was comfortable enough to do it.

I helped him print the letter out while he nervously made some small talk, and before he left I wished him the best. Chances are I'll never see the guy again. Or, if he's come in since, he himself didn't make any lasting impression and I haven't noticed. Sometimes though, when the thought crosses my mind, I like to think it worked out for them.

It reminds me of a quote by T.H. White though, which would lead to another conclusion:

"Perhaps we all give the best of our hearts uncritically--to those who hardly think about us in return."

In Your Eyes

It's no secret that I really enjoy simple tunes. There's just something about a guitar or a piano or whatever, even if it's not necessarily accompanied by a voice, that I love. Acoustic versions of songs are beginning to be my favorites by far.

Along those lines, I stumbled into a good one over the weekend. I've really liked the song, "In Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel ever since my sister's wedding when it was played during a little show of pics from my sister and brother-in-law growing up and some shots of our families, both living and passed. [Haha, probably cliche, but it was awesome nevertheless.] What I came across was a cover version performed by Sara Bareilles. She's one of the artist's who had a song featured in a Mac/Apple/iPod commercial... "Love Song" maybe? Either way, her version of "In Your Eyes" is, yes, awesome.

Check it out on YouTube here.

Gotta keep runnin'...

I just finished registering for the 2010 [wow] Relay For Life. The town's goal this year is $57,000.00, and if we pull together and keep on the same track we were on last year, we should have no problem at all kicking the crap out of that goal. Earlier today, we had 6 teams signed up and over $3,000 raised. That's pretty cool considering the event is in June!

So, not sure how much stock I put in numerology, but 7 popped up a lot with Relay tonight. I registered the 7th team for the event. I'm the 28th participant, and I do believe multiples of 7 count. (Hahaha, I can't believe 27 people beat me to it this year! Last year I was the only one signed up for weeks.) After adding the Halloween Bake Sale money and the leftover t-shirt money and straggling donations from '09, my team has raised $727.00. The total amount of the top 5 teams adds up to $3,777...

I'm allowing this to be a positive sign!

I put some feelers out for an Online Chair to replace me. Have a meeting with the Nets coming up to do a walkthrough of their home court [which will be the location of our Kick-Off in January]. Committee meeting tomorrow. Holiday Bake Sale in a couple weeks... I think I have 3 teams in a strong competition to strike for $10,000 goals--us included!

Here's to a fight, just one among many. Here's to a step along a journey, and an opportunity to try and make a little bit of a difference.

Boo.

Today sucks.

And my sarcasm is flaring up. I wonder if there's a treatment for that.

Gone.

The cover of Wired's 17.09 issue caught my eye as I was doing the mail the other day. The cover image went along with one of the featured articles entitled, "Gone."

That, along with the image, caught my attention long enough for me to delve into the article (and you can actually read it online). As it turns out, the journalist had done a story earlier in the year about people faking their deaths, the digital age, etc. He took it upon himself to see if he could disappear for a while. Wired set up this contest, and people across the country dove into it, setting up Twitter accounts, Facebook pages, chat room and all to try and come together to find him.

The dude went all out. [I'll make you read the article to see if he they found him before the contest was over.] It's amazing though, how much information you can gather about someone.

I found it fascinating. The whole idea appeals to the part of me that wants to just disappear. Of course, if I did, I don't know that there would be whole chat rooms and Facebook pages dedicated to finding me. Regardless, I'm not as savvy as he was, so I'd probably make some stupid mistakes and get found out.

Haha, that's not to say I would ever actually try to figure out how to do it. But I dunno... If I had the option to disappear and start over completely somewhere, would I take it? Would you?

"Are we dancing...?"

It was almost 2 weeks ago now that I visited my old home, flitted about the old stomping grounds and soaked in the absolute beauty of the beach. My vacation was blissful to say the least, but the two days I spent in Sarasota were also a bit taxing. Not the catching up with friends, the laughter that comes so easily or the beach. But the whole mind trip that accompanied some of the quieter moments. The flood of memories that exploded, the inundation of feelings I had all but forgotten.

The first time it hit me was stepping foot on campus. It would be foolish of me to think things shouldn't be changing, expanding, growing. But wow. That's all I can really say. I can't really describe the full impact. It's something that you'd have to experience, and even then I might just be a little too sensitive. Haha.

"Our" buildings are gone. There are new dorms and studios. In fact, the state-of-the art, blah blah blah, professional as all get out studios are breathtaking. I would be lying if I didn't admit a small amount of jealousy for not being able to use them when we were there.

6 years. Has it really been that long? Can so much really change?

The visual upgrades were one thing, but like I said, those tides of emotion weren't wholly expected. It was like every step I took was a brushstroke that painted memories.

That taste of freedom, of being on my own... The terror and excitement of moving away from home... Depending on Beastie more than I should have, losing her for a few months, then finding her again and forming a bond that will last forever... The complete obnoxious fun we had in the cafeteria [much to the dismay--and dare I say jealousy?--of our peers]... That sense of purpose and accomplishment when I finished a piece, or that sense of failure when it sucked really bad... Football on the beach [especially that time I collided with 'Chusetts and we thought we had killed each other]... My first naked person... Laughing so hard whenever we were together that it hurt... Walking octopuses... The smell of the oil paint... Almost slipping and telling her I loved her [which would have been bad]... The Great Easter Sleep Off... Zombies and video games galore with the Brains of the project... All that rice I ate 2nd year because I was too lazy to make anything else... Running through campus in the pouring rain... Cheese baskets... Vermont sneezing on our walks home from work [swearing it was the light bouncing off the white walls. Except when it rained, which gave him a really good idea for a tshirt]... Conversations in Super's bathroom while she soaked in the tub... Ooops... Being betrayed, loving and being loved, finding people who I thought would be there forever but who have changed or moved on or slipped away...

I could actually go on and on and on, but I don't know how interesting it would be to anyone. I feel like a lonely old man reminiscing to the youngsters. Haha. Aren't you lucky, youngsters?

There are over 1200 pictures downstairs sitting in a box that I need to go through. If there was that much that exploded through me from being there for 24 hours, I can't imagine what looking through 4 years worth of photographs is going to do to me. But I think it has to be done.

A trip to the beach is also necessary. But next time, more friends [new and old] need to be there. Start saving pennies kids.

Hmm...

I have this crazy little notion that this journey is going to help some things fall into place.

Hope I'm right.

Shiza.

Pretty bummed out that my cheddar cheese tidbits from the Vermont Country Store are almost gone! Love affair with cheese aside, those tidbits have saved me from having to shell out tons of money for blocks of the delicious stuff. Little baggie chock-full-o' cheese cubes. Geeeez. If you are ever in VT, and find yourself within spittin' distance of a Vermont Country Store, you NEED to get those tidbits.

Not to mention that now I'm thinking of Buffalo Bleu Cheese dip... Pick up one of those too. You can even split the cost with a friend! And then make that friend keep it at her home so you aren't tempted to eat the entire thing by yourself.

Food, food, food... what a wonderful thing.

[In case my favorite buffalo chicken dip making person reads this, I am actually at this very moment tasting it in my mouth. It's just a ghost of a taste, a whisper of buffalo-chickeny-cheesy goodness. Sure, buffalo bleu cheese dip is good and takes the edge off, but it doesn't hold a candle to the real stuff...]

Haha, I'm hungry.

Pre-wrap

This is what he looked like before he took that fatal step. As you can tell, he was pretty scared from the beginning.

Of course, he did have a knife sticking out the top of his head...

Pumpkin

I sort of always liked Halloween. Some years it's more fun than others, and some years I get more involved than others. But I think it's the combination of the season mixed with the potential for good times with friends, and the ever-important creative element intertwined.

['Course, I won't get into how I don't have a costume for the party I'm supposed to go to on Saturday, but that's okay. How 'bout a Bayside Tigers t? Haha. Yeeeeah.]

Pumpkin carving has become a fun little Halloween activity for me. Especially after looking through Extreme Pumpkins and its successor. Last year I made a "Carrie Pumpkin", complete with tiara, tears and blood flow. This year, a couple more people jumped in on the action and we adapted the "Drowning in a Bag Pumpkin" to "Suffocated Pumpkin." My excitement bubbled over [even though most of the people I texted didn't seem to share my enthusiasm.]

But here he is:


Of course, not to be outdone by:

Clone Trooper Pumpkin!

Oops...

Know how I keep going on about how indecisive I am?

Stumbled across this today:

When you have to make a choice and don't make it, that is in itself a choice. ~William James

Guess, at least in that opinion, I'm already on the road to recovery...

GoodShopp'in

A few months ago, I blogged a bit about GoodSearch, and sort of suggested that you use it for online searches in order to do some good without actually having to DO anything. During a conversation in a pretty sick Scottish pub in a quaint little Vermont town amongst some of the coolest kids this side of the Mississippi, I mentioned GoodSearch again, and how I have actually been using GoodShop a whole lot this year as well. There was brief discussion that perhaps I had not really talked about GoodShop, and I guess I hadn't when compared to it's predecessor.

So, my dear 6-8 readers, here is my plug for GoodShop!

A quick look at the "Amount Raised" link for my ARF [Amyloidosis Research Foundation] searches will show that my actual searching has declined this year. [Granted, I am mostly operating under the possibly erroneous assumption that I am the only person Good-something-ing for ARF. I might be the biggest contributor, but there's got to be a few others, right?] As of the moment, there have been 2,412 searches in 2009. I am still a huge nerd, and am guilty of looking up a variety of dorky things. But I guess I don't spend as much time sitting in front of a computer screen bored out of my mind. Wicked!

But!!

If you were to take a look at 2007, you'd see ARF raised $2.41. In 2008, $39.51 were raised. In 2009... $74.70! Where did that extra $50+ dollars come from, you ask? From online shopping through GoodShop, I'd answer. I find shopping online to be pretty convenient, especially as I find myself shunning crowded, public-filled places in my free time. [Working with the public can do that to you sometimes.] And it just so happens practically all the places I shop, like Amazon, Old Navy and Apple, are all hooked up with the service. Each month, I tried to make a purchase, however small, through one of the merchants through the GoodShop site. A percentage of each of those purchases is donated by the merchant to the cause. While the donations are usually somewhere between 1%-3%, it's way better than nothing. And looks so much nicer than the penny per search.

Granted, I made a couple of hefty purchases this year [read: TV and the oh, so wonderful MacBook that I'm typing away on right this very minute]. But I'm a strong believer in the idea that every little bit helps. A penny might be a penny. And I wouldn't bet on that 1% chance. But when you put all those pennies together... When you add up all those 1% chances... I have to believe it equals a good thing. [Haha, besides, 1% of $3,000.00 is a hot 30 bucks! Please, don't tell my credit card statement...]

As you've gathered from my posts, I really try to support my friends in their fundraising endeavors. While my biggest commitment remains Relay, and while most of my donations go to support that, I have come to look on ARF as my other cause. [Having friends who are basically family threatened by something you can't seem to fight will do that to you.]

Unfortunately, I'm not wealthy and as much as I want to, I can't support everything. I wanted badly to donate more than the registration fee at the Search on Saturday, and even the extra check I got from my parents didn't seem enough. What makes me feel a little better though, is that a huge chunk of that $74.70 for ARF came from my support.

I set a goal earlier in the year to raise over $100 for ARF through the GoodSearch/GoodShop sites. I know that amount seems so small compared to the dollars raised in other places. But I think it's amazing that any amount can be donated by simple acts of searching, or buying through a link which pretty much requires just one or two extra clicks.

If you're feeling adventurous or supportive, I encourage you to use these websites. You can support almost any cause. If by some chance you actually can't find an organization you support on these sites, you can actually start one of your own. Or, if you don't know who to support, I'd ask for the next 2 1/2 months to toss "ARF" into that charity selection, click the second option [Amyloidsosis Research Fund], and GoodSearch and GoodShop the junk out of it. And maybe together we can raise that $100 by doing nothing more than using our clicking fingers.

Okay, those and maybe our credit cards. But face it, you were going to use those anyway.

...And done

This weekend was pretty exhausting. I am so glad we were able to be part of these fundraisers though. Vermont, as always, is beautiful. Can never really get used to how many stars there are in the night sky. Or how amazing it is to see the color in the mountains during the fall. Not to mention how absolutely great it is to be with friends you never get a chance to see.

The Search For A Cure event was a lot of fun. Though the "Outsiders" team wasn't from VT, and 2/3 of it had never been there before, we came in a respectable 5th (or was it 6th?) place and actually won the most creative award! After all, just because the David statue we used for our "Take a picture with a famous person" category wasn't the original [and not technically a living, breathing person], I'd argue to say he was the most famous person in anyone's picture. [I can bet we wouldn't have known any of the other team's famous people... Haha].

I think we should have gotten extra points for making our judge laugh the hardest too. Just saying. Next year we're going to mop up.

It's unfortunate that all these fundraisers were the same weekend. It would have been nice to spend a bit more time up there and hang out with those elusive mountain people who again, I don't ever see anymore. But the JDRF walk is important too, and while the freezing rain was not nearly as fun as the possibly-illegal and random U-turns on small town Main Street, they raked it in this morning.

One thing I think I will always appreciate is seeing how strong people feel about a cause by how they react to the misfortune. I'm not saying JDRF didn't have a bigger turnout had today been beautiful. But the people who did show up got involved and walked and most looked to be having a good time. The rain did not deter them, and I bet it even strengthened their resolve. Go human spirit and the urge to overcome in the face of a crappy hand.

So now the whirlwind of the weekend is over. Kinda sucks, but all in all, a great one.

Here we go...

Let the philanthropic weekend begin!

[And here's to raising money between the raindrops... again.]

Search For A Cure

JDRF Walk

In search of some good news

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Share something good with your boy here.

May angels lead you in

I recently received a text from one of my college friends about a woman we used to work with. She passed away during the summer at the age of 50 from the cancer which had spread throughout her body.

I hadn't seen her in years, and I don't even remember the last time I talked to her [I remember sending an email or two after graduation, but never really got a response.] She was a pretty cool lady, and while she was a boss, she was one of those who always had a smile, wasn't tyrannical, and made working in retail as bearable as I've ever found it to be.

I especially remember how great she was the summer before my senior year, when my grandfather passed away and I was unable to go home for the funeral. You just know sometimes that people care about you. Even if it's just for those small moments in time.

This all hit a bit harder because the thought of a woman younger than my mother succumbing to cancer is not something I would like to think about now.

But in light of this sad news, some good news today. The chemo is working, and while I don't have any details yet, we look to be on the right path. Hopefully we'll stay that way.

May angels lead you in, Martha. And thank you.

Practical application of life skills

Two things happened today that caused me to take a minute to pause and reflect [Okay, it was more like grabbing the bull by the horns, wrestling it to the ground, jerking its head in the direction I wanted it to look at, and screaming in its ear, "LOOK!"]

The first was the more specific of the two. After dropping my car off for service, I hitched a ride home with my father and Mags. I got a pretty good chuckle seeing her sitting there behind the wheel of the car as if she was the one chauffeuring our butts back and forth. Her reluctance to hop in the back seat was apparent, however with a couple open windows, how could one resist? Looking in the side mirror, I was able to observe a smiling canine face, eyes half-closed as if in a trance, nose snuffling away at what I can only imagine to be a smorgasbord of smells too enticing to even bother thinking of anything else. Pure bliss for those moments in time, everything else be damned. Talk about living in the moment--being fully present in the moment. I need to be more like a dog.

[If my beach bum surfer boy reincarnation falls through, I will happily settle for a carefree dog. Perhaps the carefree dog of a surfer?]

The second thing that happened today was a combination of a few things. The most relevant I've considered before, but today it became more and more apparent. My job is beginning to destroy me, however, I feel like I should be taking more advantage of it than I allow it to bleed from me. Working with the public is difficult, and my patience levels have more or less been obliterated. Yet, I want to try and be more Buddhist in my ways. More calm and composed. I recognize the possibility of the hypocritical nature of my day-to-day relations with people if I'm barely holding myself back from asking them how stupid they are. This... daily endeavor is a perfect training ground for practicing patience. In fact, dare I say it would even be ideal to practice compassion?

[I'm also glad that you can't see me wincing at the thought of practicing compassion with some of these people. I swear unless you have worked with the general public, you have no idea whatsoever what this could even entail.]

But see! Training grounds. Small steps. Let us ignore the fact that it's sort of like being tossed in the deep end before you even learn how to tread water, let alone swim for the edge of the pool. Ha! Who am I to take the easy path anyway? Not to mention that my patience and understanding and compassion must remain in full swing when I get home. I'm not going to touch that now... You get the general idea.

So my two lessons: 1) Be more like a dog. 2) Practice patience and compassion at work, the optimal training arena.

Somehow I think if I can manage the first, the second will fall more easily into place.

Money money money

Earlier in the year, I remember sort of complaining about how it was a major project to get people to donate money to charitable organizations. There was also probably something in there about how I don't care if people [read: friends] support my causes. But we're all reasonably young and able and lucky, and I think we should be involved.

Well, a bunch of people did indeed get involved! And, as luck would have it, 5 of those people got involved with fundraisers that take place within 2 weeks of one another! I actually ran into the problem of not being able to put as much money out for these things as I would have hoped. Don't get me wrong, I know it's okay to support certain charities and not others. But these individuals have been so great with Relay, how could I not support them?

Strides Against Breast Cancer, the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer, Alliance for Lupus Research, and The May Fund will all take pieces of my paycheck this month. While they threaten my family and friends, it's a small sacrifice.

Thanks to all of you who got involved with something. Keep it up! Here's to making a difference.

To flu shot, or not to flu shot...

That is the question.

I have 3 hours to decide if I should get a flu shot (for free from the city). I've never had one before, and don't really want to get one.

But between my mom and my sister, I wonder if I should. They've both gotten one, so I guess mine would just be added protection...

Hmmm...

And soon, another tomorrow...

It's taken me over a week to write this post. Every time I sit and write, my thoughts jumble and I can't eloquently express what has been occupying my mind. So now I'm just going to spew some words onto this keyboard and we'll see what happens.

Remember the "Tomorrow" post? And "Today"? Well now there's this one.

On Thursday, my mom goes in for tests. Of course, this is all assuming that insurance doesn't decide to pull it's temper-tantrum power trip and prevent her from going. [Of course, today when they called to tell her there might be some sort of problem, she was at chemo. And do insurance people work late hours? Nah. Why would they? Libraries need to be open late for the people, because you know, it's free. Insurance, which is pretty much like anal rape and extortion for top dollar, doesn't need to go that extra mile.]

Anyway... there are these 2 tests that come out of this one procedure. If all goes the way it should, results should be in on Tuesday, just in time for next week's chemo.

Here we are again. At that spot in time, where there is nothing to really do but wait. Did it go away? Did it shrink? Did it spread? Is the making-you-sick-so-you-can-get-better chemo working?

Lots of people tell me not to worry, that it will be fine. And honestly, what should I expect anyone to say? Sometimes I want to ask how they will know. Sometimes I agree. Sometimes it's all I can do to ask them not to tell me something they can't guarantee. I guess it depends on the mood.

Once we got over the initial impact earlier this year, the process of "Okay, now what do we have to do to get this taken care of" kicked back in. Business as usual. But a couple weeks ago, the game changed. A comment was made implying the question of "tomorrow" or the possibility of a negative outcome to all of this. While I didn't hear the comment first-hand, it was enough to make me sort of sick. Enough to rattle that thought of "Let's get this done" and to introduce "Oh... How much time?"

I suppose part of it is a crisis of faith. Or what some people tell me is pessimism, although I'm more convinced it's realism. Now I'm not saying that I'm expecting the worst. But I'm not stupid, nor do I consider myself naive in this. I know that for every happy ending, there is a sad one. For all the smiles, there are opposite tears. Our hopes and fears and wants... This selfish notion that things need to be "fair" or at the very least acceptable. Sometimes we can only do so much. Be it God or fate or mystical monkeys, I don't really care at this moment.

Apparently, in order to process this moment, I've decided to step away from it. Like I said, I'm not expecting the worst, and while I hope for the best I won't allow myself to walk blindly into that territory. I've thought about this a lot. I won't go so far as to say I have meditated on it, because I've been awful at sticking to that. But I have tried to keep an open mind--tried to mentally prepare myself for whatever is tossed at me.

***
Well, that wasn't too terribly awful, huh? Now my task: Put it aside. Because here we are with nothing to do but wait. There is nothing to be done but that which is already being done. Think I can manage that one?

Image banking

Through the years, I have acquired hundreds of magazine clippings of people, animals, landscapes, architecture, etc to use as reference for various projects or illustrations. Since you never really know what the future holds, I would take anything that looked interesting, beautiful, disturbing, or just plain cool. Action shots, portraits, calm, chaotic. Literally, anything that caught my eye regardless of subject matter.

In the past month, I was approached about 2 possible freelance opportunities. One involves an orchard/bar/winery setting, another for a YA summer reading program involving water/waves. [They aren't really guaranteed jobs... Need to do some sketches and pass them along to see if we want to proceed. Which, of course, screams of "NO NO NO!! That's not the way to do it!!! But I know both clients, and I can't really say "No" without the guilt. And if anything, it will give me something to work on, right?]

Apparently, with all the imagery that I've taken the time to collect, I don't really have anything that encompasses either of these topics. I find it sort of funny and a bit frustrating. It's not that I don't have other resources available (um, library... internet... haha). While I can't really direct friends in reference shots anymore, I should be able to manage.

Side note: I don't think I fully appreciated the good humor and awesomeness of all my art school friends who would pretty much do anything as far as poses were concerned. To say that it is helpful to have people do whatever you want just so you have good reference material for a project is an understatement.

Burrrr-gerrrrr

Dudes.

So, seeing as how I work in a library, and countless books of all shapes, sizes and genres pass through my fingers, I am exposed to lots of awesome, cool, disturbing, exciting, novel stuff. I'm like a literary whore.

Anyway, I currently sit here with Bobby Flay's Burgers, Fries and Shakes and am in awe. I am barely halfway through the burgers and can barely flip another page.

I love burgers just as much as the next guy. One of the best things about summer is the grill, and while fish and veggies and steaks and kabobs [and I'm going to stop there, lest I bore you with all the things I have eaten from off a grill this summer], a juicy cheeseburger is like home. Familiar, happy, satisfying. I'm hungry just thinking about it.

Cookbooks and things are always fun, but ONLY if they have pictures. After all, how can you tell you want to try dates stuffed with chorizo and goat cheese if you can't tell what it's going to look like? Bobby Flay doesn't use pictures of these burgers everywhere, but holy crap. These burgers are scandalous. Cheyenne Burger... Greek Burger... Sante Fe Burger... I'm not even saying these are so extraordinary or exotic. They just LOOK so amazing. Cheese oozing and dripping over fat burger, dribbling down crusty rolls, pooling on the plate.

Love it.

I don't think I can finish going through it though. It makes me hungry(er) and sort of sad that I wasn't more adventurous with this year's burgers. Perhaps I should just buy this book [we'll ignore the fact I've had this one for too long] and start experimenting.

Awesome!

I do believe some creative license was used in these signs. I might even go so far as to say some could be works of art. Check it: 25 Funny Lost and Found Signs

Relay 2010

The website for Relay For Life 2010 is already up, which is sort of exciting. It looks a bit cooler than last year's site [although we have the site through the same company, so I doubt the frustrations will have vanished].

I'm trying to use some restraint and NOT sign up yet. Since we're not even really close to the end of 2009, I foresee it being a bit difficult to raise money online. We'll see though. Perhaps a Halloween bake sale would kick off some fundraising. Hmmm...

$10,000.00 is pretty far away...

Is that... a sense of accomplishment?

Ha, so dramatic! But, indeed! Dare I say it...? Okay, I'll say it.

I got my website up! Okay, well I didn't necessarily get it up. My favorite Vermonter actually did that. But after all this time, I actually, finally have a website. No bells and whistles, but it looks pretty cool and gets the job done. Sick. =)

And, while my Labor Day weekend was fairly low-key (minus some BBQ shenanigans on Saturday), I dove back into painting and almost finished a new piece. Not an original, per se. Inspired from an magazine picture in my image bank. But I think it's pretty sweet.

Haha, and look at that! When it's finished, I'll be able to put it on my WEBSITE. Rock on. I'll allow the smile.

[Take that, bout of sort-of-depression!]

The lion and the unicorn...

When we were little, I remember watching this live version of Alice in Wonderland that my grandmother had taped for us. It was sort of fun, sort of trippy. I guess pretty much like every other version of Alice in Wonderland.

Anyway, there's this part in there where there's a lion and a unicorn sort of acting out the nursery rhyme.

The lion and the unicorn
Were fighting for the crown
The lion beat the unicorn
All around the town.

For whatever reason, I got this idea to do a painting based on this. I don't really have anything other than the "Hmm... that could be kinda cool."

I don't have a composition idea, or a style idea. In fact, beyond the image of a lion and unicorn, I don't really have anything to go on. Maybe I'll just slap some paint on there and play...

Mandatory Summer Reading

While the thought of staying in bed and never getting up was certainly tempting, I did manage to get up this morning. [Of course, that had more to do with the phone call for a potential freelance gig, soon to be followed by a call for a Relay meeting.]

My mission today is to try and get the f*** over yesterday, and shrug off some of this bullshit.

So far, I manage a chuckle with this article from America's Finest News Source:

Study: 74% Of Children Tenting Out In Yard Don't Make It Through The Night

I wish I could make copies and slip it in the books at work. That would be a larf.

"How come everybody... How come everybody gets down?"

Today sucked. I take back everything I ever jested about a "lucrative civil service job." I feel like I've been played for the past... 13 years. That's a double digit number, you know. Thirteen.

So work is awful. And it's fun when the higher ups look you in the eye and say, "We know morale is low." Hahah. Ya think?! You wanna maybe jump in there and like, I dunno, do something about it?

But whatever. A job's a job, right? And as per my earlier posts, it doesn't define who I am. Of course, the kick-in-the-gut feeling that I've wasted the past 6-12 years of my life is a little difficult to get over. More fun to get over is the dam that burst open upon today's wonderful news.

Among these gems:
I am wasting my life.
I don't know what to do with myself.
Why am I so unable to make some sort of change?
Why can't I find a job?
I'm not as creative or talented as I need to be to get this shit done.
I still live at home!
I'VE WASTED 6 YEARS OF YOUR LIFE! [I am aware the math doesn't add up, just trust me on this one though.]
I'm a joke.

[I did notice all the "I"s packed in there by the way. How self-deprecating of me.]

At this point, the swirling thoughts and headache are clashing with disgust and depression and anger and all I want to do is... what? Run away? Get in my car and drive? Head to the nearest bar? I consider calling someone to vent, and then I suddenly can't.

I realize I probably should go home, since now I'm 2 hours late, and I think about how it's going to suck to walk into a house full of people and pretend nothing is wrong. But I don't really have any other options. And homecoming sucked more than I anticipated.

Last week something snapped. This week it was crushed. I feel defeated.

. . .

['nuff said.]

Rock on America.

Commentary: Frightening future if health reform fails - CNN.com

Heh...

Something broke inside me today. It stretched and bent and wiggled and fought back. But it snapped.

I wonder what it was.

Hahahaaa

This reminds me of a few years ago...

Area Man Has No Idea How To Get Copy Of Birth Certificate | The Onion - America's Finest News Source

"Yay! Come travel with us! Oh wait, you're single? Ooooo.... Yeah. About that..."

I have been looking into some tours/trips that include groups so I could get over my little ghetto-ness about "I'd rather not go somewhere cool and sit there by myself because I'm a loser" thing. It's sort of cool because there are seem to be a lot of things out there.

But guess what! If you are traveling alone, you get charged extra. As in $100 to $200 or more. Hahah, so you know when they say "Discounts available for group rates!"? Well, apparently sometimes it's also "Extra fees when you don't have anyone to go with!" [I could launch into my feelings about relationships and being single, or even how I liken this to celebrating anniversaries, but I will refrain for now.]

Good shit. I'd rather pay $200 towards a friend's trip then give it to some company/group/tour. Oh well.

So I think maybe I'm going to hack up that vacation instead of taking the whole week. I can try to shoot for something in the future and put a little more planning into it [whether that includes saving a few extra hundred for to travel alone or trying to get a friend or 2 to come with].

Tryin' to leave some options open, but we're coming down to the wire. Oh well...

Vacate the premises

Scheduling vacation at my job is a hassle, in part because all vacation needs to be settled and approved usually by February. Sure, you can attempt to change a day or two but only if you're lucky enough to have it not interfere with anyone else's approved time off.

I usually try to pack long weekends towards the end of the year (mostly because vacation is pro-rated, and if I get lucky enough to leave, I don't want to owe them hours or money). This year though, I actually scored a whole week off in September. The desire to travel somewhere is quite strong. But I feel stuck. Why? Because, I don't really like traveling alone. Or rather, I'd rather share a new place or new experiences with other people. The actual getting to where I'm going isn't the issue. It's the what to do when I get there.

This year, half of my friends are broke or getting married or buying houses, making them monetarily unable to partake in such adventure. The others have either scheduled their own vacations and asked me to take part after the fact ["We're all going to do THIS! You should come too! What? You can't take that time off? Well we already have everything booked, so try anyway."] if I was privileged enough to be included at all. Rock on.

I have 10 days to do SOMETHING! Hawaii? Haha. That part of me that wants to say "Screw it, peace out," and bounce to what I have built up in my mind to be paradise is all over this idea. I'd love to go there and scope it out--Kauai!?--and seal the deal or burn through my own illusions. San Diego? Seattle? Santa Fe? Hell, Italy and finally get my passport stamped with something? Haha. There are even these "Volunteer Vacations" all over the place, but the problem with those is they usually require more time--anywhere from a few weeks to a few months. I won't get into prices, or how for the cost I should just go to Hawaii.

So I don't know. It's frustrating, and I know it's sort of silly. I shouldn't let an opportunity pass because I don't want to go alone (hahaha, boo hoo, right?). I'm looking for some sort of sign! And, you know, the right idea to splash into my totally otherwise occupied mind.

That hat...

Mom started wearing the wig today. I think because she went to take care of some stuff at work, and it's easier to get people used to a new 'do after a couple weeks off rather than come in all of a sudden with different hair one day [Okay, so it might work if you're faux-hawkin it and you couldn't really care what people think of your hair, but we aren't all blessed with the ability to pull it off].

Needless to say, I hate the wig. I know it's important, and I understand it's role in this whole process to every person who goes through something like this. The hair loss is the thing that slams this into perspective for me. Why is that? Can it really be just because it makes it a more visible aspect of the illness? Do I write the chemo off as just a bunch of doctors' visits? Pretend the inconvenience of numbness and occasional appetite loss is just a bug now and then?

She doesn't wear the wig around the house, which I'm grateful for. If you can't walk around bald in front of your family [be they blood related family or not], then you have a problem. But there's this blue hat. Her head gets cold, so she wears the hat. And while she still has hair [I buzzed it short about a week ago in prep], I haven't seen her without that hat since Friday. I know this means it's falling out faster and getting thinner.

I'm disappointed in myself because I don't feel like I'm handling it all that well. I'm disappointed that I can shrug off the seriousness of all of this crap until we get to the hair loss. It's just hair. Buddhists shave their heads to keep humble [it's difficult to worry about your hairstyle and how it affects your appearance and societal status when you don't have any]. I know it's just hair and it'll grow back. Who cares?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not falling apart over it or anything. But all day long when someone asked me how it was going, or what's new, all I could think of to say was "My mom had to wear the wig today." Of course I didn't actually say it. But if you were to ask me today, "What's up dude?" that would have been my honest answer.

I fucking hate you cancer.

Nailed by the library!

This is ridiculous, but certainly funny.

Nailed 'Em - Library Crime | July 27, 2009 - Movits! | ColbertNation.com

Book burning? Really?

Ridiculous:

Library fight riles up city, leads to book-burning demand - CNN.com

[I'm not a fan of censorship.]

Fireflies

Song of the day (or past several, actually)

Fireflies by Owl City

It reminds me of Trying To Put Your Heart Back Together. Like a happy sad song or something. Plus, with a Firefly program coming up, and the awesome little dudes flyin' around the past few weeks, it seems appropriate.

And I like this line:

To ten million fireflies
I'm weird, cause I hate goodbyes

Lost and Gone Forever

Would be so awesome...

11.27

New York, NY

Beacon Theatre

Tickets on sale Friday 7/17. Celebrating 10 years of Lost and Gone Forever. An "Evening With" Guster: Two sets, one of which will be the album in its entirety. Flyers

All Ages

8:00 pm

TIX

=)

I'm going to be an uncle.

Jobbity Job Jobs

My very good friends are going to be sad that I did not in fact start on their save-the-dates this weekend like I intended to. Instead, I spent the weekend working. And having a good night out (um, sushi and Punch-Out!!? I can hardly be held accountable for that, right?). And spending alll day today building another website in addition to the PBworks site that I put together during the week. I used iWeb this time, and it actually didn't come out too bad.

Of course, I don't have a way to publish it, so no one can see it but me. Haha. Yeah. I don't know if I want to dish out $100/yr for a .mac account or whatever, especially since I already have a couple domains all dusty in the wings waiting for me to do something with them.

Why the sudden urge to whittle away at a website? Well, this job I kinda want asks for web site info/link to artist's site. I've tried to come up with something creative, and I actually have some pretty cool ideas for websites. I just don't have the technical know-how or apparently the funds to hire someone. Minor issue.

We will see what becomes of this. You should keep your fingers crossed or say a little prayer for me about the job. And if I ever figure out how to publish (is that even the right word? Yeah, I suck like that) the cool(er) site I will pop the link on here.

Clouds and fire

Sitting on the plane the other morning, we were treated to one of the most breath-taking sights; shortly after taking off and breaking through the southern clouds, the sun started to come up.

What made it most fascinating though was right before our star broke the cloudy horizon. There was this brilliant blaze peeking across what could have been the edge of the world. It was a pencil line of fire almost too intense to look at. The clouds became waves of cotton, and the fog below the plane made the landscape look more like a bottomless ocean instead of solid ground.

For what couldn't have been more than 20 seconds, we got to look at this amazing picture. And then the pencil line started to bleed, and the orange fire spread up into the sky. Before we knew it, the sun emerged [and pretty much blinded us, haha].

It was quite amazing, and something I hope to experience again.

Ugh.

Okay, wait. Not totally "Ugh."

Doc gave Mom the okay to travel so long as she's back from next week's chemo. Rock on!

But.

My flight got canceled.

[We're not all on the same vacation schedule, so this only effects a couple of us.]

We were kindly re-booked on a flight tomorrow. I'm sort of... what's the word... annoyed? But I guess I should be glad I don't have to run around tonight, right?

Today.

You have a long day at work, constantly thinking and wondering and anxious. You're a little on edge, and that damn new copy machine [read: office hand-me-down] is just being a piece of shit. The public is crankier than usual, you find yourself biting back comments, cutting off retorts before they drip from your lips.

You look over your shoulder at the clock even though you fully realize that it can't be more than 5 minutes that have passed.

Your stomach sinks a little when it's 3:00--the time you know she's in the appointment. You take your break and do some breathing and calm yourself down.

You text your sister, asking if she thinks there will be a text. [Dad's great at sending cryptic text messages for any such event.] She says she hopes, that she even requested a phone call. It crosses your mind that you should text yourself. Or call. But you're scared.

3:30. 4:00. 4:30. 5:00.

And now you know.

Those 3 hours pass excruciatingly slow. You punch out, get in the car and drive home. Your dad opens the door before you even have a chance to put the key in the lock. This has never happened before. Ever. He tells you everyone is outside and we all need to talk.

You go to wash up, and your sister is in tears in the bathroom. You don't say anything, because what is there to say? You don't ask anything, because you shouldn't hear it from her. And she might exaggerate. She might not have it all straight. You accept that the breast cancer came back and now we have to kick it's ass again.

You go outside to a sea of sad faces--another sister who just finished crying, a cousin who stares blankly ahead, her boyfriend looking slightly uncomfortable but supportive. You walk over to your mom and give her a hug. She kisses your cheek and tells you.

You fully expect to hear: "The breast cancer came back."

Instead you get, "They found a spot on my liver."

You don't really register lots of stuff after that. You sort of hear that it is very important to start the chemo as soon as possible. Monday morning in fact. 3 weeks on, 1 week off. They don't know how long, because they don't know how bad it is yet or how it will respond to treatment.

Your mind flashes back to see her there; pale and skinny, wisps of hair clinging to her white head. You remember when it all fell out, in clumps, and when you had to shave her head. You see the discomfort and weakness that the treatment causes. You despair.

You numbly eat a hot dog because, once again [or as always], work has made you late for family dinner. It doesn't really taste like anything. You try and crack some jokes, and wonder why there isn't a lump in your throat.

Before she leaves for a visit to the monastery, you get a couple minutes alone with her. The doctor specifically made her appointment his last, so he could spend as much time with her as she needed. He walked in and told her: "This is serious." No family reunion trips to SC. "We have to start as soon as possible."

She is strong as ever. Obviously upset, sort of in that "here we go again" mode. But she isn't crying. She doesn't tear up. She is strong. So you decide you are just going to be strong again too.

Today you are reminded, and you are forced to remember. Today was what you feared, and a little bit worse. Your faith is shaken, your fragile smile falters. You try and harden yourself for what comes next. For the next tomorrow.

But today. Today...

Tomorrow.

Tomorrow my mom finds out if the cancer came back. Or if it spread somewhere else.

But I guess I should backpedal a little bit. A couple weeks ago, she had a check-up and they found that her tumor count (tumor markers?) was too high. While this in and of itself does not mean anything horrible, it isn't a terribly good sign. In fact, it could all be messed up because she recently got over a non-pig related flu. However, it was strongly recommended that she follow up with a PET scan and a bone scan and all that. One was last Friday, the other this past Monday.

[Let me segue for just a moment about insurance companies. They fucking suck. The vindictive part of me hopes that those incompetent assholes get screwed when they need something important. The "I'm trying to be a better person" part of me pities them for being so useless, because that's all that part is capable of doing at the moment.]

Now, I haven't talked about this to anyone. I have found it's been on the tip of my tongue and I just haven't been able to vocalize the words. I think part of the situation has been the uncertainty of it all. Why say anything if it's all going to turn out okay?

But I dunno. I'm sort of scared. That Thanksgiving when she found the lump, I knew it was cancer. You know when you get that feeling--when you are just certain of something? In the olden days, when you just knew you bombed that test [>ahem< style="font-style: italic;">knew you'd wind something [rock on $25 Ski Barn gift card]. Sometimes you just know, and it's going to be good. Sometimes you just know and it's going to be bad.

I have been doing pretty good trying to avoid thinking about it. Yet, every so often I get this sinking feeling, and all that heartache and worry flashes back. And then sometimes I get that almost embarrassed feeling for even thinking it, because I know it will be okay.

And I just totally wrote about how I am sort of getting bummed out [I'm going to refrain from using the "D" word]. Concern and questioning over family and friendships and love. It really went on and on. But don't worry, I deleted it.

Here's to tomorrow.

Pitch black

On my conference journey today, I had the distinct pleasure of driving into the pitch blackness that was a ghetto-ass thunderstorm of the highest order.

Messed up. It literally looked like it could have been midnight, not 7:30 a.m.

Being the quick-witted individual I am, I thought "Hey! It's just dark, at least it's not raining." Ever the optimist!

Then it poured for the next 2 hours and I couldn't see anything. Awesome.

Although the occasional bolt of lightning streaking across the sky was enough to remind me that there was something beyond the raindrops, cars and clouds. If I hadn't been driving, it would have been sweet.

[The conference was cool.]

SQUIRREL!

You should go see Up.

Wrap up meeting #1

So tonight was our Team Captain Wrap-up Meeting. We had the usual crew present (it's STILL frustrating to have 8 or 9 team captains show up when you actually have over 20 teams, but it's okay) and we were informed that we have currently raised over $51,800.00!! So awesome. We only need $3,200.00!! That's nothing--we're so close!!

I made a bulletin board at work to advertise the fact that my team had kicked so much butt. I had done this more to sort of toss it in the board's face, since they are notoriously against us and all that we do. I wanted to show them that we had come together and wiped up without ANY help from them. They probably didn't give a shit, and that's fine too. But I wanted my coworkers to know and be proud.

Then on Saturday, a patron actually came up to me and thanked me. Just a "Thank you so much for doing this." To know that someone who was not directly involved went out of their way to thank me. It was just... Wow. Hah.

I was even quoted in the paper (which is weird to see), and at a family party on Sunday there were some people who commended me for the speech I made day of that they kept hearing about. I felt sort of guilty, because it wasn't all improvised. But what was interesting was how they had heard about it from friends or friends of friends, since they hadn't actually been there.

And tonight, I was presented with the coveted "Platinum Team" lawn sign. Haha.

I guess I am a little proud after all.

Now how to top that?

Ask You

Go here and check out the song. (Then, you should probably leave a comment and let him know what you think. Chances are you'll help make his day.)

My Life Prediction (summed up in songs courtesy of my Scrubs playlist)

Can you tell Relay's over? I spent way too much time playing around with this. But here she goes:

Everybody's Changing - Keane (Played while I feel like I lose half the people I thought would be there forever.)

Ain't No Reason - Brett Dennen (Played while I'm questioning life and relationships and why things suck.)

Surrender - Cheap Trick (Played when I give up and try to go with the flow.)

Be Yourself - Audioslave (Played while I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing.)

Boston - Augustana (Played when I reach the bottom and decide to drop everything and move to the other side of the country. Note that instead of wanting to leave the west coast and go to Boston, it would be the opposite. Some snow would not be nice, and I'm tired of the sunrise. Although I wouldn't mind finding a lover and flying her out to Spain.)

Little Victories - Matt Nathanson (Played while I'm trying to talk myself out of tucking my tail between my legs and running back to the comfort zone.)

Beautiful World - Colin Hay (Played when I come into my own... find myself... and find her.)

Overkill [acoustic version]- Colin Hay (Played when I'm half there, half not, what do I do boyo, what do I do?)

Mother We Just Can't Get Enough - New Radicals (Played when I start to get crazy about her.)

Brick House - Commodores (Played at the weddings I might be invited to. I will probably dance to this if I'm drinking too.)

Fix You - Cold Play (Played when we help each other overcome whatever bullshit we allow to beat us down.)

Learn To Fly (Played when I'm traveling, learning, living... undoubtedly a montage.)

Blue Eyes - Carey Brother (Played when I realize I fell in love with her.)

The Book of Love - Peter Gabriel (Played when we get married.)

These Photographs - Joshua Radin (Played when I can't imagine being happier.)

Snow (Hey Oh) - Red Hot Chili Peppers (Played when something's wrong.)

Wonderful - Everclear (Played when she stops loving me and breaks my heart.)

Come Around - Rhett Miller (Played when I try to get over her.)

A Bad Dream - Keane (Played because without a doubt this will pop up somewhere in my future. Here would be good, so I can get it over with.)

In The Sun - Joseph Arthur (Played when I finally let her go and make peace with myself.)

Waiting For My Real Life To Begin - Colin Hay (Played when it all falls into place.)

Missed The Boat - Modest Mouse (Played on the shaky ground... but it's not really so bad.)

Miracle - Foo Fighters (Played because, after all, it is.)

Beautiful Day - U2 (Played because I know it is, and when it comes down to it that's what counts.)

100 Years - Five For Fighting (Played at the end. Predictable, but fitting.)

Damn... I should get started, huh?

[Of course, this is just something I played around with after some job hunting burnout... If my life does wind up needing some sort of soundtrack, I would branch out beyond a Scrubs playlist... There's always a Sweetness moment. Or a Parachute. And Here You Me. Plus you can't forget Subtitles. Or Breath Me. Two Points For Honesty? Hometown Glory? And the stuff GB hasn't introduced me to yet, or the stuff that hasn't been written yet. And maybe some original stuff by some original people...]

$10,000.00

We did it. =)

Relay For Life 2009

Yesterday was the big day, and I'm still recovering today. My drenched butt didn't get home till after 4 this morning, and I'm tired as hell and sore all over. But it feels good.

We got rained out once again (although, I actually wasn't responsible for calling it... and it stopped raining around 1 maybe? 2? And by 3 there was nothing. I was sort of disappointed). Yet, even with that setback, we managed to get almost everything in.

The sun actually came out for a while, and most of the afternoon proved to be beautiful. Survivor/Opening Ceremony went off without a hitch, laps and activities went as smoothly as could be expected. There were people playing football and volleyball. Our DJ was awesome. There was singing, laughing, food, fun all over. I didn't get to partake in too much of that, but it was good to see everyone else enjoying it.

Around 8 or so, my uncle told me the weather didn't look too good. I pow-wow'd with my Luminary committee, and after JUST telling them how great they were, and how much pressure they took off the rest of us, and how my co-chair and I never for a minute worried about what they were doing, I told them to do the ceremony at 9:00 instead of 10:00. By this time it was 8:30. The look of shock didn't go any farther than that, and with the help of half the stadium, we got all those bags--almost 1700--out around the track. 20 lighters and some sprinting around the field later, those bags were all lit. The speaker was even able to make it back and we started pretty much right at 9. It was awesome, and the Luminaria Ceremony, as always, perfect.

[If there is one thing you must experience, at least once, it would be this ceremony. It's one of the most touching and emotional things I've ever taken part in. And that sensation, those emotions, are never dulled no matter how many I've done.]

Then the rain came. And some thunder and lightning. And more rain. And everyone left. Well, almost everyone. My ACS chair and I were the last to take off after finally getting some ghetto children to vacate the premises. (Yes, we actually got some participation from "kids" this year! But now this means we're going to have to really stay on top of those chaperone forms, because said kids should not have been there by themselves. And I don't do babysitting for strangers.)

So now it's over, and I'm left feeling a little... I dunno. Hah. At first, I had this feeling of accomplishment. But there's something tarnishing that, and I'm not sure what it is. I had many people come up to me yesterday and thank me. Not only Committee Members or Team Captains, but some perfect strangers. Friends and family congratulated me for a job well done. One of my teammates informed me that if given the option, she'd have a son just like me. (Hehe, how awful would that be, the poor boy!) I had people thank me for bringing them together, for introducing them to new friends, for helping them through difficult times.

And here I am, with a team that has raised $10,000.00 (okay, we're like $400 short, but I've got 3 months so you damn well better believe I'm going to find a way to make it happen), in charge of an event that's raised over $49,000.00 ($6,000 more till our goal!! Granted, a little tougher to raise in 3 months, but still doable). A good 85% of the program got done! Smiles and all, despite the weather...

I should still feel proud right now, ya? I should smile (haha, okay, well I am smiling), and feel like I did as great a job as I keep telling everyone else they did.

I wanted to help people, to make a difference. I guess I did...

And I want to do it again.

Rain?

Probably. Bastards.

Crossing fingers for a good event...

4 days!

I keep getting a different weather report than everyone else. And that's a good thing based on the ones I've been getting! (I suppose a battle between Channel 12, The Weather Channel, and whatever miscellaneous Boston source are going to have to duke it out. If my guy wins I'm going to be pissed.)

It's exciting! I sorta can't wait. There's going to be people from all over too, which is awesome. I hope my responsibilities won't prevent me from being able to hang out at all.

Okay, so are you with me!? Are we going to rock this thing?

Oh yes. Yes we are.

"I can say I hope it will be worth what I give up"

I wonder what's going to happen this year. What sort of ups and downs the next 365 days will hold.

Lost in thought. But not in a wholly bad way...

Pink Flamingos

As I opened the shades this morning to get some light for ironing, I was greeted by a sight which actually made me laugh out loud. Upon our front lawn sat not one, not two, not three, but FIVE pink flamingos. (Okay, so not REAL flamingos, but still.)

It was awesome. It's actually a fundraiser for the ACS Strides Against Breast Cancer event in October. One of my former Relayers, a breast cancer survivor, left us this year to concentrate on that event. I played around with the idea of getting involved in that too, for my mom, but it might be too much...

So now I have pink flamingos! We'll have to pay some money to make them flock away. Although I sort of like them there.

It's funny too because we were going to do a similar thing for Relay (except with purple flamingos or some other lawn decoration). I wasn't sure how receptive people would be or how easy it would be to get off the ground. With a small committee it's hard to get spearhead so many different things. But based on my reaction this morning, I'll think we'll have to do it next year. Maybe dueling flamingos?!

Awesome.

Moo-vays

Some thoughts.

Wolverine was okay. Not great, but not awful. I guess I'm uber-sensitive about my merry mutants. And I probably had my Wolvie fix with his first 3 movies (Or, the X-men trilogy...). It's just... how do you stick Cyke in there? There was no point in having Emma Frost in there (If you saw the trailer then you know exactly what her role consists of). And Gambit? Man. What a way to try and cram all this stuff--all these characters--into a movie. Story be damned.

Terminator actually looks pretty sick. I feel I'm sort of drawn to that post-apocalyptic thing, whether it's Age of Apocalypse or Logan's Run or Matrix or I Am Legend (I'll stick with Matheson, you can have Will Smith) or whatever. I would like to see it. I wonder if John Connor will be surprised when he meets a Terminator for the first time. He probably shouldn't be.

Up is probably going to be another Pixar smash. Considering the only Pixar movie I didn't really get into was Cars, I should see this.

Last but not least, I should actually go see Star Trek. Those are words I never thought I'd string together before, but damn it looks pretty awesome.

Haven't seen Watchmen yet, so I'm not sure that I'll actually get to any of these. And an $11.50 price tag stings. But we shall see...

Saturday, May 16

SHOWERS?!?!!!!!! ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH..........


wtf dude. really.

this kid is tryin not to stress.

Saturday, May 16

MOSTLY SUNNY!!!!!

Keep those fingers crossed.....

$1,868.92!!

That's how much money my team has to raise to make $10,000.00 for this year's Relay For Life.

I have made it my personal mission to see this happen. Of course, I have no idea whatsoever on how to make it happen. But here's my thing.

First off, if we raise $10,000.00 we become a flagship sponsor for next year's event. So long as we follow a couple rules (like sign-up before March 1, 2010), our name and logo will be on next year's shirt. For the entire region. (I designed our logo. =))

Secondly, what better way to publicize the library and show our community and the surrounding ones that we aren't just some place for free movies for seniors to complain about and a building where middle-school hoodlums can come to get arrested by cops after school (more on that another day). This wouldn't be our consortium. This wouldn't even be our city, per se. This is US. And we (will have) kicked ass.

This, in turn, would make it more fun to stick it to our anti-library mayor and library board. (How is a library board "anti-library", you ask? Good question! Maybe because the mayor has to appoint the board. You know, said mayor who doesn't like us.)

Plus, I don't know how much longer I can do this. Have so much responsibility with all of this. I don't want to be at my job forever, and when I leave, what happens to the team? This is our best chance. And to be the TOP fundraiser in our BEST year. There's a certain amount of pride in that. Okay, that's a little selfish...

Maybe it just boils down to validation. A desire to be part of a bigger picture, to take part in a stride for change. To fight back against a disease that has threatened my family and friends. To strike out at the illness that has stolen them.

I want to make a difference. So I'm going to.

$36,628.85!

That's how much this Relay has raised so far!!! That is more than TWICE what we raised online last year, and if memory serves me correctly, scant hundreds less than what we ACTUALLY raised last year.

I can hardly believe it. With all that's been happening and with the event barreling down on us... Holy crap! Haha.

I want to push for $40,000.00 by the weekend... Maybe even $45,000.00 by the event? Is it possible?

(That's not to mention the $10,000.00 I'm pushing my team to raise. We're at $7,337.57 right now. If I can sell all those t-shirts, that'll give us another $1,200. Another bake sale, maybe another $400... Who's got $1,000 for us?!)

WTF cancer?

One of my good friends was diagnosed with melanoma, a "serious" [but we're not going to worry about it because it's going to be okay] type of skin cancer. She should be "comfortably" in Stage 1 and after removal and all that everything should be fine.

I was going to say that perhaps I'm more sensitive to it all now that I'm sort of involved so heavily. But that's not it. My mom having breast cancer is pretty much "in your face." My staff partner's dad (how could you even be more involved than working for the ACS?!) passing away last week. Not to mention my grandmother's and father's small bouts with skin cancer. Or that so many of my friends and coworkers have lost people this year alone.

And now my friends.

I'm not going to worry for my friend too much, because as mentioned, it's early and it will be fine. Plus, she's a very strong person and has uber amounts of support. And sarcasm is not foreign to her! That coupled with the sense of humor... she's going to kick its ass.

But seriously, Big C. Lay the f**k off, huh?

That itch to fly...

"I had the itch to fly and I flew." As you can probably tell by now, I LOVE that line. And here's the song which provided the sweet lyric.

And actually, this live version kicks so much ass. I think I need to go to another show soon. Guster?! Haha. Jimmy?! Hmm...

I find myself thoroughly enjoying this along with "Trying To Put Your Heart Back Together." All thanks to my Gregarious friend! [Where's my favorite DJ when I need him?]

2ns and meh.

I can't get the music to work! =(

And today... Today I'm really ready for Relay to be over.

GSK does Relay?

As I mentioned, my staff partner is on the other side of the world, but our sub was supposed to meet me at GSK this morning for a meeting with what I thought would be potential Team Captains. I was a little nervous, as I usually am when I'm on the spot like that, but I thought, "What the hell, I got this stuff down and I'll have backup."

But! Back-up was late getting there, and when they came to get me I find myself quite alone. I figured I tell them I wasn't ready or ask them to wait. So I was lead through the building to this meeting room. And what sight do I behold?

20 people, sitting in a horse-shoe shape staring at me.

If there is at least 1 thing I'm thankful that the library has taught me, it's how to hold my own when I'm put on the spot. I'm not the most elegant speaker, and I drop more "Ums" than I'd like to admit, but I nailed most of that stuff. When ACS help got there, she didn't even have to bail me out. Sure she added some stuff, but I handled most of it without throwing up or passing out. (Not that I've ever done either of these while on stage, but I'm sure if I thought about it enough I could.)

It has probably also given me the tools I need to be comfortable enough to chair an event like this and talk to people and all that.

Blast you library! Am I really indebted to you??

And so it is...

Go here and Check this out.

(But go to April 11th's strip if it doesn't load right.)

And cancer again.

This morning I received an email from my ACS partner's husband. He told me that his wife's husband passed away early this morning while she was on the last leg of her trip to the Philippines. She did not get the chance to see him before he passed away.

Her husband admitted he wasn't sure why he emailed me, but thanked me and the committee for all the work and dedication we've put into this Relay. That we've helped out and our efforts are appreciated.

This hit me a little harder than I thought it would. I knew it was inevitable, but I dunno.

It sucks.

Fuck'n cancer.

Bullies.

I saw this article on CNN last night and it really bothered me: My bullied son's last day on Earth. I don't expect you to read it, but the gist is this 11-year-old boy hung himself after school one day because he couldn't put up with being bullied anymore.

This isn't to say that there wasn't something else wrong with him, or maybe I'm just a little naive in thinking that suicidal thoughts don't really start till you are a little older. But the whole thing is awful. It reminds me of why I'm so jaded about people sometimes. This fifth grade boy had to go to school everyday and deal with people calling him ugly and gay and a virgin. (I'll admit I thought things really changed in elementary school, because I would have figured most of the 5th graders would be virgins. However, leave it up to the elite group of children to look at a kid from the Virgin Islands and figure that would be a great thing to pick on.)

I got bullied daily growing up. In fact, if I was in class with this kid I probably would have drawn some fire away from him. I was that ugly kid. The chunky, nonathletic, fro'd-out, thick plastic-framed glasses outcast. Heh, and looking back I probably didn't even realize it to the full extent of what it was. Kids made fun of me in elementary school, but it wasn't too bad. Middle school was worse. I'd get pushed in the halls sometimes, people would laugh at me in gym class, ask me why my nose is so big or why I was so ugly. This one kid used to call me "queer boy". (Which I admit in 6th and 7th grade I had no idea what "queer" meant other than the original definition: odd or questionable. No, I didn't have a social life back then either, so I read a lot.) And once this kid even pulled a knife on me on the bus. Those 3 years were among the worst of my life.

There is one difference between that me and this kid though. I never told anybody. I suffered pretty much in silence, resorting to a complaint of "I hate my life" rather than going to my parents or a teacher or anything. This kid did. I can't imagine how crushed I would have been if I told my parents that I was being harassed in school and nothing changed. Or if it got worse. I don't know where this sense of safety for kids in school comes from. These people who study bullying and all that. Are they stupid? It happens all the time. And there isn't really anything they can do to stop it.

I'm glad that I wasn't suicidal in elementary school, or that I didn't even really think of it until after middle school. My heart breaks for this kid. To go home, walk to your room and hang yourself in a closet with your belt... How does a boy do that?

I hope those kids that made fun of him realize what kind of pain they caused him. I wonder if they feel guilty, or if they'll change how they treat others. Or are fifth graders so hard-core now that they can shrug this off and blame the kid for killing himself?

Why can't we all just be civil to each other? Who cares if we all LIKE each other? Just be nice!

I hope that boy can rest easy now. I hope wherever he is, he can finally smile and laugh and be a care-free 11-year-old boy.

Today would be the perfect day to fly away

It's gorgeous outside.

The Captain

Unfortunately, my ACS staff partner's dad is not going to pull through. She's leaving again tomorrow to be with her family, and actually said she's not sure if she'd make it there in time to see him before he passed.

I feel awful, and not only because it's one of those shitty things that you can't do anything about. She apologized for leaving us again and promised she'd be back for our event. I tried to assure her I didn't need any apologies or promises. We're talking about family. That comes first, regardless of commitments or relays.

While she hopes to be back in a week or so, we do have another sub. This time at least we know the woman and she's pretty awesome. (And I'm confident will be a much more appropriate fill-in than the last one, who will still be a part of our stuff. Good times.) But as expected, a large brunt will again fall squarely on my co-chair and me.

I'm much more confident than when this happened last month. I feel like we're in a pretty good spot, and if the website is any indication, we are kicking ass. We have raised over $28,000 so far which is $11,000 more than last year's total online amount, and while we have 2 less teams we have about 30 more participants signed up so far. We're sitting pretty good.

I just really, really hope it all goes well. It's tough to pour so much of yourself into something and watch it wash away in the rain, or crumble under stress. I know my committee is ready to handle what we need to get the job done. I would like it more if I could count on the weather. Or the numbers to pull through.

It's the countdown now--23 days... 3 weeks from Saturday. (Yikes!) We're painting the town purple this weekend (with ribbons and banners... I'd prefer real paint but I think we'd get arrested for that) and have a bunch of fundraisers coming up. I am finding it interesting to be the cheerleader and coach when it comes to the teams and committees. All that positive reinforcement! Hahaha. I wonder if it makes a difference.

So here I go, staying the course...

Courageous, just like the captain
Marching forward with no doubt in his head

Here's hoping we rock it.

Susan Boyle

I dislike American Idol and all reality TV as much as the next guy. I pretty much avoid it at all costs, especially since I live in reality, and while it's far from exciting or TV worthy, I don't really care to watch someone else's reality.

When the news of Susan Boyle first started going around last week or so, I didn't pay much attention to it. I heard that Simon what's-his-face was blown away by her performance or whatever, etc etc. Didn't really care about that either!

But then CNN put out an article about her, and I caught something else about all the hits the videos were getting on YouTube and all that. I succumbed and checked it out. And I'm actually not disappointed I did.

As I'm sure everyone else knows by now, Susan isn't the most attractive woman to grace a television screen. She was pretty awkward when she walked out onto the stage, and she joked around a bit, and people visibly made fun of her. I actually felt my stomach twist a little bit, and probably had some sympathy nervousness or whatever you'd like to consider it. How could one possibly forget what it feels like to be made fun of... or laughed at? What it feels like to put yourself out there and get beat down? And then the lady sang.

BAM. Stopped them short. Shut them up. Showed the "cool kids" what the deal is. I loved it. I felt vindicated for her, by her, through her. It was awesome. Not to mention that I thought she actually did very well and thought her song choice was pretty appropriate.

Of course, as all good news will do, CNN analyzed the beejesus out of it. The latest with the article Why we're fascinated by Susan Boyle. An interesting take on it, and thankfully one that didn't diminish my appreciation and respect for her. Whether or not she wins, I'm sure I'll catch another post somewhere. I hope she does.

I also think it would be a pretty good feeling to make money on those who shunned you. =)

Did you hear the one about the cloned baby?

I dunno, this seems like it could be a bad idea. I understand the pain of losing someone and can't imagine how awful it must be to lose a child. But does cloning a lost child as a replacement seem like a good idea to anyone else? As it is, sometimes abortion seems to be used as a form of birth control. Are some [wealthy] people going to consider cloning as a type of "reset" button.

"Gee, honey, Junior is acting strange. Perhaps we should hit him with the shovel, scrape the inside of his cheek and start over."

Hahaha, okay, that probably wouldn't happen. But there's a whole grieving and acceptance process that I feel would be stymied by this. If you are that hung up about the loss of your child, cloning said child will not help you let go. Not to mention the fact that said clone wouldn't actually BE your lost child. Think of the years of therapy Cloney would need...

Of course, the whole article isn't about this one kid. But it addresses the inevitability of the cloned human. Sort of interesting, exciting and scary.

You can check out the article here:
Cady, the little girl killed in 2002 car crash who could 'live' again as a clone

Your next booklist

If you are looking for some light bed-time reading, may I suggest you consult this list:

10 Great Books For (Traumatizing) Children

I actually feel like I need to hunt these books down! I've read the titles in #2 by Edward Gorey and Hilaire Belloc and I actually loved them. (That's not to say I think childrens books about a Hiroshima or abusive parents would be awesome. But an alphabet book of death? How can you not find humor in that. (Plus, that was one of my first ever illustration assignments... Good times.)

Besidese, if you ask me, Jim deserved it for being a brat and running away. And Matilda!! Hahahaha. You should totally check her out.

Shipping labels

It's a sad, sad day when receiving an order of shipping labels makes you excited.

It's even sadder when said labels print out so perfectly that it actually makes you laugh!

But then it's funny.

So it's okay.

Artoo? Where are you?

In honor of the brand-spanking new phone I picked out in less than 5 minutes thanks to the wonderfully funny and sarcastic Verizon lady, I have changed my blog to a black background.

'Cause that's what my phone has.

Pretty sick. I'm enjoying it thoroughly. Now all I need to do is figure out this music thing... For, you see, I've considered actually utilizing all the functions my phone was meant to have, including for once, sound! At least, sound when I'm hangin around home.

Guess who beeps and boops when I get a text! Haha. Not to mention a Guster ringtone!

Hahah I love it.

And it was good

Pratt was awesome last night, and while I'm still recovering from my lack of sleep it was well worth it.

We got there a little late (I don't care who you are, you can't think it's fun to drive around the city) with traffic and getting slightly lost. But even so, we manage to get in about 6 solid hours of drawing.

We started with gestures, which are always a good way to warm up, even after so many years. Then we moved into the "5-10 minute" room. Out of the 18 or so different models, we probably were able to draw 10 of them or so. Lots of different poses and opportunities. Free pizza!!! Some interesting and fun music. Some of it live. It was so great. And ya know, I really wasn't all that bad. Now I just have to keep it up.

Also bumped into a few friends from college who I haven't seen in years. That was a nice surprise too.

See! Trepidation be damned. This one was more than well worth it.

Now to find naked people in the area...

Naked People!

Tomorrow I'm going to head into the city for an overnight figure drawing event at Pratt! I say that with both excitement and a little bit of trepidation.

I still find the big bad city to be a little too intimidating. I'm fine once I'm there, so maybe part of it is like my issue with travel in general. I just want to be there, I don't want to go to the airport and sit there for hours waiting for the flight to take off. But in this particular case there is a certain flair of social anxiety. Not that I enjoy the wonders of full-blown social anxiety disorder (and I mean, how could I if I run a city-wide event, right?), but I think my discomfort is a little bit more than what's normal given certain sets of circumstances.

What's compounding it this time is the fact that this event will be chock-full of kick-ass artists (I mean, Pratt... c'mon!). This plus the face that I haven't drawn naked people in so long... It's going to be interesting.

Aud proposed this idea earlier in the week, and I talked myself out of and back into it about 10 times. Signs sort of keep pointing toward "You idiot! Go!"

I'm proud of myself for submitting to that contest. And I'm happy that I'm taking steps to rearrange my life. I'm not great at it, but I try to challenge myself to step out of that comfort zone (read: walk into a social situation--or any situation--where I'm so not comfortable).

Just keep my eyes on the naked people. It'll be fun!

"Smile, breathe and go slowly."

Itchy. Tasty.

Do you enjoy zombie lore?

If so, then you should check out these Zombie Contingency Plans.

Fascinating indeed. I suppose Resident Evil strategies might not be the best way to go after all. And if you figure there'd be those puzzles to figure out and all those keys you'd have to find, then it hardly seems worth it. I can't even do simple math, let alone mix herbs!

:)

Naked in the aero-plane?

This isn't new, and through all my traveling I have yet to be so explicitly violated. I think it's a bit too far. Does it really make flying any safer?

I'm undecided. Although I find amusing the one comment about not minding so long as the traveler doesn't have to remove his shoes. Hahaha.

And speaking of naked people...

Oh, yeah!

I just sent in a submission for this contest that good old Ringling was doing called the Ringling 100. I can't tell you how many times I talked myself out of it just to talk myself back into it.

Either way, I'm proud, haha.

Had lots of little flashbacks throughout this time around. And it wasn't even the piece itself. Maybe it was just the mindset? Or talking to my Beastie about the project. Thinking of all those hours in the labs. Painting all night. Falling asleep in paintings. Studios and fumes. The passion and angst and laughs and all those other feelings of accomplishment for doing some great (or bummed-out-ed-ness for doing something not so great).

Shit I miss that. [and i miss them too.]

So this is another new leaf for me I think. Smart Mike has given me unflinching encouragement and is pushing me to be that "art kid" that I keep talking about who's sorta strange but not too socially awkward. (Haha, well I'm already socially awkward.)

I have a freelance gig lined up (with no deadline! Arrgh!) and a wedding chock-full of save the dates and invites (I swear I didn't forget) and a painting unfinished on my easel....

And there's a smile on my face that feels good.